Times have changed when the sexual intimacy pursues the wish of having many children or is observed as a female marital duty. Today the married couples think that the sexual life is the most important guarantee of their marital happiness and the main way of their sexual fulfillment. The phenomenon of an orgasm imitation is
widespread in our clinical practice. The number of women who apply to us for this problem has essentially been increasing for the last five years. It is interesting that the initiative of applying to a doctor over this problem very often belongs to a man.
“Excuse me, what do you think whether the majority of women fakes the orgasm?” the journalist asked the male passers-by. “Oh, of course, many of them deceive, and they aren’t satisfied at all,” a man answered immediately. “As for your woman? ” There went silence, too intense silence… And suddenly he answered with a confident and strained look, “No”. “No?” asked the journalist once more. “Of course, no.” Ok, let’s suppose that the man has had sexual intercourses with a few women, and he needed those several silent minutes in order to remember them in his mind. But the second man asked that question with the same delay. Maybe he tried to remember his last love relation. The next inquiries took place in the same way. What’s the reason of such delay, and what does such repeated ‘No’ mean? All men are sure that the basic part of women pretends, but it doesn’t refer to theirs. And every time there is the same pause of silence, which follows the question of ‘and what about yours?’ I deplete all the possible explanations in my mind; the man hasn’t got any woman, he is a virgin, he thought of the next question and didn’t want to fall into a trap, finally he thought that it might be a hidden video-camera and was done for fun. But, however, I come to the following conclusion: their unconscious confession will mean that they have no power on sexual intercourse and relation at all, and it means that their masculinity is under suspicion. And what is it? So what? The suffering and struggle of achieving the orgasm, the orgasm imitation for the sake of the man and self-realization of his masculinity, the will of satisfying his woman are just a performed game, aren’t they? Because the orgasm imitation gives the woman the certainty that she keeps the situation under control. She can give a pleasure to the man with the help of ‘orgasm’s duty’, and in case of the absence she can rebel against him. Whereas he wants to satisfy her, maybe she doesn’t need it. Is the wish of granting orgasm first of all for the man? What do the man and woman do? The false wish of giving her orgasm is just a faked one. “Really, he pursues the orgasm,” one of the visitors said “he always asks how it was, whether I liked it. I feel myself uncomfortable as I don’t need any orgasm, I just want to be with him, to feel that he loves me. Instead, I hesitated by answering ‘yes’ and in order not to go deep into the heart and to stop the dialogue, I modestly felt shy… ” Not giving myself to the dangerous inclination of the orgasm’s fetishism I’ll just mention that the absence of a female orgasm is sexual disorder, which worsens the quality of life, diminishes the self-esteem. The absence of orgasm, especially orgasm imitation, can lead to the serious sexual problem in men and women and can destabilize their relation.
